How to Nurture Self-trust

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How you best cultivate trust with yourself emerges from understanding what stands in your way of trusting yourself in the first place – the original wounding, the misperception or illusion. I can easily help you unearth that, whether it is rooted in this lifetime or another timeline. The healing recommendation for the wound will respond specifically to your unmet need. However, it is safe to say that trust is developed […] Read more »

Who Are You Choosing to Protect?

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“I need to be okay” is the conditioned mantra of the human mind, so the ego pursues a need to justify itself, even if it has to ignore the painful issues in one’s life. These ego defenses are not to be confused with defending the truth. Clarifying the difference may make all the difference in the world right now, and whether you descend through the perpetuation of self-deceptions or serve […] Read more »

Releasing Attachments

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Everything is shifting, expect the unexpected, don’t rely on what was, and what’s coming is uncertain. So, there’s only one place to go with all that – within.  If you’re feeling that you’re losing control, be grateful. Control is the ego’s coping strategy: hanging on to something outside of itself that it imagines it needs to feel good. It’s a story of false satisfaction and tenuous security. To keep playing […] Read more »

Prayers of Surrender

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Dear God,  I AM a Divine being in need of your benevolent support. I lovingly command your kindness and ease and grace at this timing to bring me all that aligns me to my highest expression as one with love and truth. Clear my path of all interferences and illusions. I surrender my need for control as I open to all processes and experiences in neutral witness and humility. I […] Read more »

Coming to a Standstill

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One day, months ago, I lay on my bed mid-afternoon and I couldn’t find a reason to move. It seemed that I couldn’t move, not even lift my baby finger or use my eyes to look around. I wasn’t meditating. It was just a few marvellous moments of deep, deep stillness. There was no ego-mind itching to analyze. There was no thinking. My body didn’t want to adjust itself or […] Read more »

How to Transcend the Search for Acceptance

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– accepting the difference between ‘should’ve’, ‘could’ve’ and ‘can’t’ As a psychotherapist, I hear it again and again – the cry of the wounded, inner child: “if only…”, “I wish they had…”, “they should have…”, and “one day they will…” This wishful thinking about Mom and Dad is often at the root of much of life’s dissatisfactions – wishing things to be different than they are. Even if you have […] Read more »

Playing with Fire

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“Only love, only love, only love,  how many times must I tell you before you jump into the fire!”    Rumi I have loved these words from the brilliant soul of the great Sufi poet. To me, they are a clarion call to abandon, to leap with faith and give all of yourself to Divine love – no matter what! Love is only frightening before you leap. Living this side of the […] Read more »

Do You Say What You Mean?

Humans seem to have great deal of difficulty communicating with one another. We sometimes don’t listen well, we can speak at cross purposes, or make assumptions about what’s being said. We often beat around the bush when something is difficult to say, or we can trip over our words when we are unclear with ourselves. I have a cellular memory of times when communication was more telepathic and so much […] Read more »

Critics and Doubters – How Do You Deal With Them?

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Your worst doubters and critics are not the people outside of you – they will always come and go. The worst are those inside your own spiritual house, attempting to usurp your power. The inner critic doesn’t miss an opportunity to visit you with criticism, attacking and devaluing you in some way, even if it’s your shining moment. It can be accusatory, demanding, and always makes you wrong. Immediately, this […] Read more »

How to Let the Ego Die

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Practices for Releasing Ego Practice dropping out of your mind/lower mental focus and into your body. Bring your awareness to your body by noticing your breathing and/or noticing the physical sensations of your body parts. Once you are in your body, acknowledge and name what you are feeling. What you are feeling is different from what you are thinking. For example, ‘I am feeling angry”, is different from “I wish […] Read more »