acceptance

When Togetherness is Too Much

Finding the balance in togetherness can be tough. You want connection but sometimes it just feels like too much – too much talking, too many questions, and too much closeness. You feel anxious when you’re required to spend too much time with your partner/spouse. It feels smothering. If this describes you, then unlike many people who fear abandonment, you fear being engulfed. For you, the childhood wounds of not having […] Read more »

The Key to Healing Abandonment

It’s quite common to feel abandoned. Whether you were separated accidentally from Mom/Dad as a child, felt left behind during their divorce, or shaken by the death of your parent, the trauma lingers. Perhaps you felt alone and unsupported when your needs weren’t met repeatedly. Abandonment remains emotionally painful if what you learn as a child is a mis-trust of others, uncertainty that someone will be ‘there’ for you when […] Read more »

Stepping Through the Door to Truth

Every time we open a door, what we see on the other side may surprise, delight or even frighten us. How we respond determines whether we manage to move ahead in our spiritual evolution or take two steps back. I know this sounds rather simple, but at the moment it’s entirely relevant to the human experience. There is so much undiscovered awareness and more people are starting to get a […] Read more »

Patience is a Virtue for the Unyielding

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There are times in life when we feel pushed to make a move. We are pressed against the edge of the familiar and our sense of safety. We may feel a nudge or perhaps intensifying pressure to expand!! But before we do, patience is required – to be fully in the moment to yield to the obstacles that have stood in our way for so long, so that they may […] Read more »

How to Transcend the Search for Acceptance

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– accepting the difference between ‘should’ve’, ‘could’ve’ and ‘can’t’ As a psychotherapist, I hear it again and again – the cry of the wounded, inner child: “if only…”, “I wish they had…”, “they should have…”, and “one day they will…” This wishful thinking about Mom and Dad is often at the root of much of life’s dissatisfactions – wishing things to be different than they are. Even if you have […] Read more »

Critics and Doubters – How Do You Deal With Them?

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Your worst doubters and critics are not the people outside of you – they will always come and go. The worst are those inside your own spiritual house, attempting to usurp your power. The inner critic doesn’t miss an opportunity to visit you with criticism, attacking and devaluing you in some way, even if it’s your shining moment. It can be accusatory, demanding, and always makes you wrong. Immediately, this […] Read more »

Are You Arguing with Life?

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Life happens – a constant flow of joyful and painful change, and everything in between. Human resistance is as certain as change, because when the negative ego dislikes anything that is unfolding in life, whether it’s minor or profound, it will seek a means to avoid it. Unfortunately, wanting things to be different than they are through ego-control only amplifies trying circumstances and creates suffering. Ego can make a mountain […] Read more »

Equation of Acceptance

you are enough

 In meditation, I saw this clarity about ‘acceptance’:   acceptance = acceptance of being here on Earth + acceptance of purpose + (accepting all others + being accepted)   I asked “how?” for each part of the equation:   acceptance = being here in the ‘now’ moment + being Light + accepting myself   acceptance = being here in the ‘now’ moment + being Light + loving myself   acceptance = being here in […] Read more »

Key Principles for Living a Spirit-Directed Life

Volumes can be and have been written about the following teachings, yet they are always timeless and relevant. I share them here with my own perspective, through my direct knowing, and my experience in serving a spiritual counselor for many years. May they serve as gentle reminders to those on a conscious path.    Live in the Moment – You can only be here now. The past can be a […] Read more »

Natural Forgiveness

Our capacity to forgive rests on a foundation of empathy and reverence for the sacredness of our fellow wo/man. Forgiveness is heart-centered, and when it brings about unity it’s entirely profound; it is the externalization of the beloved Mother/Father God in Divine union, the manifestation of Christ consciousness. Forgiveness is often predicated on the concept that there is some wrong-doing which must be assuaged. We frequently use judgments of ‘right’ […] Read more »