Who Are You Choosing to Protect?

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“I need to be okay” is the conditioned mantra of the human mind, so the ego pursues a need to justify itself, even if it has to ignore the painful issues in one’s life. These ego defenses are not to be confused with defending the truth. Clarifying the difference may make all the difference in the world right now, and whether you descend through the perpetuation of self-deceptions or serve […] Read more »

Releasing Attachments

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Everything is shifting, expect the unexpected, don’t rely on what was, and what’s coming is uncertain. So, there’s only one place to go with all that – within.  If you’re feeling that you’re losing control, be grateful. Control is the ego’s coping strategy: hanging on to something outside of itself that it imagines it needs to feel good. It’s a story of false satisfaction and tenuous security. To keep playing […] Read more »

How to Transcend the Search for Acceptance

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– accepting the difference between ‘should’ve’, ‘could’ve’ and ‘can’t’ As a psychotherapist, I hear it again and again – the cry of the wounded, inner child: “if only…”, “I wish they had…”, “they should have…”, and “one day they will…” This wishful thinking about Mom and Dad is often at the root of much of life’s dissatisfactions – wishing things to be different than they are. Even if you have […] Read more »

Do You Say What You Mean?

Humans seem to have great deal of difficulty communicating with one another. We sometimes don’t listen well, we can speak at cross purposes, or make assumptions about what’s being said. We often beat around the bush when something is difficult to say, or we can trip over our words when we are unclear with ourselves. I have a cellular memory of times when communication was more telepathic and so much […] Read more »

How to Let the Ego Die

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Practices for Releasing Ego Practice dropping out of your mind/lower mental focus and into your body. Bring your awareness to your body by noticing your breathing and/or noticing the physical sensations of your body parts. Once you are in your body, acknowledge and name what you are feeling. What you are feeling is different from what you are thinking. For example, ‘I am feeling angry”, is different from “I wish […] Read more »

Are You Arguing with Life?

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Life happens – a constant flow of joyful and painful change, and everything in between. Human resistance is as certain as change, because when the negative ego dislikes anything that is unfolding in life, whether it’s minor or profound, it will seek a means to avoid it. Unfortunately, wanting things to be different than they are through ego-control only amplifies trying circumstances and creates suffering. Ego can make a mountain […] Read more »

The Synergistic Benefit of Bodywork and Energy Healing

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You may have heard the expression “the issues are in the tissues”.  And indeed your physical body is not separate from your emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies. A while back I was receiving some bodywork and we tripped upon the tension in my right leg from a traffic accident I had many years ago. I wasn’t actually hurt at the time, but the surprise of my car spinning out on […] Read more »

Are You Loving Your House That God Built?

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Every human body speaks volumes. It is filled with a fantastic history –yours from this timeline, yours from other lives and dimensions, the history of your ancestors and of all of humanity. It is a hologram, the whole in every part. If it could express itself with words it would speak of pain, addiction, bliss and horrors, buoyancy and stiffness, regret, happy memories and miracles. It would stream stories, perspectives […] Read more »

Know Your Sub-personalities

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A sub-personality is part of your ego that has been created out of some need fulfillment in childhood, and stays with you as a way of coping. For example, the insecure boy becomes a bully, the girl who suffered much criticism becomes a perfectionist, and the child who didn’t get approval becomes a people pleaser. People often have several sub-personalities and these usually collude with one another. For instance, the […] Read more »

Natural Forgiveness

Our capacity to forgive rests on a foundation of empathy and reverence for the sacredness of our fellow wo/man. Forgiveness is heart-centered, and when it brings about unity it’s entirely profound; it is the externalization of the beloved Mother/Father God in Divine union, the manifestation of Christ consciousness. Forgiveness is often predicated on the concept that there is some wrong-doing which must be assuaged. We frequently use judgments of ‘right’ […] Read more »