inner child

the younger self who holds a perspective of experiences at the moment they occurred

It’s Never Too Late

by Aranka Urban

It’s sometimes the smallest of events that make the biggest difference. Every day we take actions that are seemingly mundane or casual, with no expectation that something great will emerge. But that’s precisely when it sometimes does. And that’s when our minds and hearts soar beyond the assumptions of life and who we thought we were. In truth, we just have no idea what we’re capable of until we try. […] Read more »

Holding Healthy Boundaries

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Is someone crossing the line with you? We all know what it feels like to have our personal boundaries violated, but do we all know what to do about it? In my experience, developing and maintaining boundaries is difficult for many. It’s directly related to the ability to know our value, stand in our power, and feel safe. There’s a profound reason that boundaries are often breached: the free will […] Read more »

How to Nurture Self-trust

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How you best cultivate trust with yourself emerges from understanding what stands in your way of trusting yourself in the first place – the original wounding, the misperception or illusion. I can easily help you unearth that, whether it is rooted in this lifetime or another timeline. The healing recommendation for the wound will respond specifically to your unmet need. However, it is safe to say that trust is developed […] Read more »

How to Transcend the Search for Acceptance

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– accepting the difference between ‘should’ve’, ‘could’ve’ and ‘can’t’ As a psychotherapist, I hear it again and again – the cry of the wounded, inner child: “if only…”, “I wish they had…”, “they should have…”, and “one day they will…” This wishful thinking about Mom and Dad is often at the root of much of life’s dissatisfactions – wishing things to be different than they are. Even if you have […] Read more »

Playing with Fire

child dancing

“Only love, only love, only love,  how many times must I tell you before you jump into the fire!”    Rumi I have loved these words from the brilliant soul of the great Sufi poet. To me, they are a clarion call to abandon, to leap with faith and give all of yourself to Divine love – no matter what! Love is only frightening before you leap. Living this side of the […] Read more »

Self-compassion

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(definition) Self-compassion: you in your fullest potential – right now! When we feel compassion for others, we open our hearts to bring love to suffering in the desire to alleviate it for them. Compassion for others is:* noticing their suffering* feeling with them in their pain* responding with kindness no matter what the circumstances* acknowledging the imperfection of the human condition, and loving anyway  We are a compassionate species. Social neuroscience is confirming that […] Read more »